What is Counselling?
Counselling falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’ and allows you to discuss your problems and any difficult feelings you encounter in a safe, confidential environment. The term can mean different things to different people, but in general it is a process people seek when they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth.
A counsellor is not there to sit you down and tell you what to do - instead to encourage you to talk about what's bothering you in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking. Together, we may then look to create a plan of action to either help you reconcile your issues or help you to find ways of coping.
Counselling does not come in a "one size fits all" format and each session is tailored to you.
What can counselling help with?
Counselling can be useful for anyone who wants to explore the way they're thinking or feeling further, as well as anyone experiencing a problem or issue they are keen to resolve. People may choose to speak to a counsellor because they feel they cannot speak to their other half/friends/family about such personal issues, or they may simply wish to speak to a professional with an objective viewpoint.
Common subjects that can be addressed within counselling include the following:
Addictions - Wherever there is a physical addiction to a substance or activity - there is likely to be a psychological addiction too. Counselling aims to relieve the psychological addiction by exploring the root cause while helping to develop new ways of thinking.
Bereavement - Losing a loved one is a difficult event in anyone's life. The loss can bring up a wide range of emotions including guilt and anger. Some people benefit from speaking openly to a counsellor about their feelings to help ease the process and resolve any remaining issues they may have.
Bullying - Being the victim of any form of abuse, whether it's verbal or physical can lead to issues that may affect you all of your life. Counselling can offer victims the chance to seek help from authorities (if appropriate) as well as addressing the psychological repercussions in a safe environment.
Illness - Suffering from a long-term illness such as cancer or dementia can turn anyone's world upside down. Counselling can help sufferers come to terms with their illness while offering emotional support and coping mechanisms.
Mental health issues - Suffering from a mental health issue such as depression can feel incredibly isolating. Counselling looks to discuss the feelings that arise in conjunction with these kinds of mental health issues as well as overcome any personal challenges or frustrations.
Relationships - Covering all types of relationships, counselling can be used to discuss issues within families, friendships and couples. Problems could involve anything from a poor relationship with a parent through to an abusive relationship.
Trauma - Whether you've been involved in an accident or you have been the victim of abuse, the psychological impact of trauma can last years after the event itself. In a counselling session trauma victims are encouraged to explore their feelings regarding the incident and look into how these could be resolved or changed.
Other - Feelings of stress, anxiety and low self-esteem are becoming all too common in today's society. Counselling can offer practical advice for overcoming these kinds of issues as well as allowing you the space to vent your frustrations and feelings.
Counselling for Children and Teenagers
We read daily in the press about the pressures faced by today's young people; Violence in cities on the increase, peer pressure ... the ever increasing need to 'fit in' - 'be popular' - 'look good' and achieve top results from schools and colleges.
Is it any wonder issues arise?
I have worked with young people of all ages for over 25 years, from many different backgrounds and cultures; issues of anxiety, depression and low self-worth are all too common.
I offer a safe environment to explore new ways of responding to existing problems, and can help shift the focus off "how I don't want it to be" into working towards "How I like things in my life to be."
If, as a parent, you are concerned about any issues with your child, whatever age they may be... please don't struggle alone... book a session! We can explore ways of supporting your child, establishing healthy boundaries, or addressing issues currently being faced. No issue is too big... or indeed too small - if you are concerned about your child ... I am happy to help.